If you are not at least somewhat aware of the powerful effect that the words you use have on your life and health, you are about to learn why you need to put some conscious attention to the thoughts you choose to think, and the words you choose to speak.
Begin to pay attention to what you think, and what you say. Get curious. Become aware and awake to your habitual and automatic thoughts and speech.
When we are thinking in stressful thought patterns, our heart rate becomes disorganized and increases, adrenaline rushes and cortisol rises. Our thoughts determine our emotions, and our emotions influence our actions and habitual behaviors.
When we are caught in the whirlwind of our minds, and stuck in our heads, we are more apt to lose our cool, and act in ways we will later regret. Not only that, but habitual and chronic negative and pessimistic thought forms begin to manifest in the physical and emotional body, and lead to dis-ease, physical and emotional pain.
The root of addictive habits like reaching for alcohol, food or shopping to soothe, numb and distract, often originate in our racing minds when we are wound-too-tight.
Often these thought forms originate in our family of origin, and we can find ourselves sounding just like one of our parents – even though we swore we would never be like them in those exact same ways!
Recently I was talking on the phone to a long time friend who has been in my life for over 18 years. She was talking about how she has had many meltdowns lately, and continued to tell me how she is trying her hardest to stretch herself as far as she possibly can to make her life work, and keep all her different balls in the air.
I envisioned a rubber band as she was speaking, and decided to tell her what I saw as she was telling me this. I said,
“so what happens to a rubber band when you stretch it past it’s capacity?”, and she responded, “it snaps!” “uh huh”.
I became aware that she uses this language often about ‘stretching’ herself, and it occurred to me. We all have certain engrained ways of speaking that we are not even conscious of, never mind even being aware of how they affect our health, and contribute to physical aches and pains, and what we are telling the Universe when we say them.
If we believe (and voice) that we must ‘stretch ourselves thin’ to make life work, then the Universe will show us more reasons why we need to stretch even more, by bringing us more unexpected or challenging situations to deal with.
If we believe that we have to “fight through” something to get ahead, we will find that life doesn’t flow, and we have more and more things we have to “fight” against in our lap.
If we believe that to get ahead we have to work ourselves ragged, then that is what our experience will be.
We have to understand that our thoughts and words effect our physiology, and can either give us personal power or take our power away.
Instead of stretching ourselves too thin, we can choose to expand and flow with life, and do what is within our capability on a daily basis.
Rather than “fighting” what is, we can choose to accept reality, and make a choice about how we will move forward in a mindful and intentional way. What we force or fight will only be met with stonger resistance.
If you want to start harnessing the power of your thoughts and words, begin by becoming aware of them. Question them, and think about where they originated. Did your Mother of Father used to say those exactly words regularly, and now you have adopted them as part of your internal belief system?
The amazing thing, is that beliefs, thoughts, words and habits can be changed! No matter how long you have believed something to be true, if it is not serving your highest growth, you can choose to let it go and adopt a new belief.
If you catch yourself saying something negative, or complaining to a friend or your spouse about the same old dried up story, pay attention to the effect it has on your emotional energy. Do you suddenly feel drained, or powerless? Do you feel your energy contract or shrink?
The first step in changing any pattern is to become aware, and conscious of the internal workings of your mind, and what you say out loud to others, and yourself.
It takes practice and conscious effort, but it can be done.
You will notice that life flows so much easier when we make peace with ourselves- and it all begins within our minds.
We must move out of our heads, and into our hearts, and learn to feel our way through life, more than we think our way through into a frenzy.
Share below in the comments, your experience with trying to become more conscious of your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you!