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To the Woman Who Has Lost Her Voice in Her Relationship
October 5, 2020
Growth vs Victim Mentality in a Narcissistic Relationship
February 8, 2020
The Hidden Dangers of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
November 20, 2019
What if the Universe Doesn’t Have Your Back?
August 7, 2019
The Cycle of Covert Narcissistic Emotional Abuse
August 6, 2019
6 Ways to Shift Your Money and Wealth Consciousness
August 4, 2019
4 Reasons You’re Failing in Life and Business
February 15, 2019
Invest in Yourself: Stop Asking For Permission and Step into Your Power
November 20, 2018
6 Things to Do When You Discover You are In an Abusive Relationship [Part 2]
October 30, 2018
Why I’m Not a Veganism Pusher
August 19, 2018
When You’re Feeling Like You Should Be Further Along
August 17, 2018
How to Improve Your Marriage..Without Talking About it
April 13, 2018
What To Do About Midday Energy Crashes
November 29, 2017
The 4 Stages of Adrenal Fatigue
November 11, 2017
3 Signs of Emotional Manipulation in Relationships
November 2, 2017
How to Master Your Energy Around the Holidays
September 18, 2017
The Emotional Connection to Health
August 30, 2017
Unfu*ck Yourself and Stop People Pleasing
August 11, 2017
10 Things That 40 Years Has Taught Me
August 9, 2017
Awakening through Burnout
April 22, 2017
You’re Not Crazy, (Or Broken), it’s Your Hormones
April 16, 2017
What to Do When You Fall off The Path
February 26, 2017
Orthorexia: An Addiction to Dieting, and Healthy Eating
February 2, 2017
5 Signs You Are Experiencing a Personal Growth Spurt
November 30, 2016
When Nothing You Have Tried Is Working
November 7, 2016
5 Underlying Causes of Depression & Exhaustion
November 6, 2016
What’s Draining You?
August 26, 2016
Feeling Sick and Tired? This could be why.
August 15, 2016
Your Guide to Finding the Right Therapist
August 14, 2016
Conscious Parenting for Emotional Health
March 8, 2016
Thoughts and Words Determine Your Life & Health
February 11, 2016
Healing Hormone Imbalance and PMS
October 14, 2015
ONE Surefire Sign You’re Experiencing Narcissistic Abuse
January 13, 2022
Crazymaking Communication | Stay Out of The Emotional Quicksand
March 8, 2021
How to Take Control of How You Feel While Living Within a Narcissistic Relationship
March 8, 2021

Testimonials

“Working with Leanne has helped me to become more empowered and know that I am not alone, crazy, or asking for too much. I learned ways to communicate effectively to not allow myself to self-sacrifice all the time and keep boundaries in place”

Diana BrownETC Coaching Program Student

“End The Cycle © lifted the veil on what is going on in my marriage. I have been unhappy almost my whole marriage and I felt so much guilt and shame that I was unhappy. Seeing behind the scenes and understanding covert abuse dramatically elevated the feeling that I was a “bad wife” for not liking my husband”

Emma ReynoldsETC Coaching Program Student

“Before I found Leanne, I had spent a year reading and watching everything I could get my hands on about narcissistic abuse. I went from simply being educated about it to being supported and coached in such a caring and understanding way that gave me the strength and validation to leave.”

Isabella CookETC Coaching Program Student

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Recent posts

To the Woman Who Has Lost Her Voice in Her Relationship
October 5, 2020
Growth vs Victim Mentality in a Narcissistic Relationship
February 8, 2020
The Hidden Dangers of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
November 20, 2019
What if the Universe Doesn’t Have Your Back?
August 7, 2019
The Cycle of Covert Narcissistic Emotional Abuse
August 6, 2019
6 Ways to Shift Your Money and Wealth Consciousness
August 4, 2019
4 Reasons You’re Failing in Life and Business
February 15, 2019
Invest in Yourself: Stop Asking For Permission and Step into Your Power
November 20, 2018
6 Things to Do When You Discover You are In an Abusive Relationship [Part 2]
October 30, 2018
Why I’m Not a Veganism Pusher
August 19, 2018
When You’re Feeling Like You Should Be Further Along
August 17, 2018
How to Improve Your Marriage..Without Talking About it
April 13, 2018
What To Do About Midday Energy Crashes
November 29, 2017
The 4 Stages of Adrenal Fatigue
November 11, 2017
3 Signs of Emotional Manipulation in Relationships
November 2, 2017
How to Master Your Energy Around the Holidays
September 18, 2017
The Emotional Connection to Health
August 30, 2017
Unfu*ck Yourself and Stop People Pleasing
August 11, 2017
10 Things That 40 Years Has Taught Me
August 9, 2017
Awakening through Burnout
April 22, 2017
You’re Not Crazy, (Or Broken), it’s Your Hormones
April 16, 2017
What to Do When You Fall off The Path
February 26, 2017
Orthorexia: An Addiction to Dieting, and Healthy Eating
February 2, 2017
5 Signs You Are Experiencing a Personal Growth Spurt
November 30, 2016
When Nothing You Have Tried Is Working
November 7, 2016
5 Underlying Causes of Depression & Exhaustion
November 6, 2016
What’s Draining You?
August 26, 2016
Feeling Sick and Tired? This could be why.
August 15, 2016
Your Guide to Finding the Right Therapist
August 14, 2016
Conscious Parenting for Emotional Health
March 8, 2016
Thoughts and Words Determine Your Life & Health
February 11, 2016
Healing Hormone Imbalance and PMS
October 14, 2015
ONE Surefire Sign You’re Experiencing Narcissistic Abuse
January 13, 2022
Crazymaking Communication | Stay Out of The Emotional Quicksand
March 8, 2021
How to Take Control of How You Feel While Living Within a Narcissistic Relationship
March 8, 2021

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Former Therapist, Counselling Psych.
Empowering No BS relationship guidance for women who are ready to GROW +EVOLVE
👇🏻09/28 Pain to Power Bootcamp

The women I work with are not being hit, the viole

The women I work with are not being hit, the violence isn’t obvious and outward.

Others outside often don’t see the behaviours (not always the case) but the “nice guys” who use covert abuse, control, manipulation can make the most cutting remarks with a quiet whisper tone in the calmest way.

This stuff remains hidden to others and women are wondering if they’re actually going crazy.

It’s the sly, stealthy, shifty, calm and cutting ones that brag how they “never get angry” or that come across as eerily calm, meanwhile causing emotional chaos for their partner.

The outside world sees a “wonderful husband” or “great father” when women who are with these men are scratching their heads, wondering if it’s just them since everyone else seems to think he’s amazing.

In my opinion, these are the most dangerous because the abuse remains subtle and hidden for decades in a marriage.

If you’re being physically abused it is easier to identify and gather support because it’s often more obvious.

So much damage is done when women unknowingly tolerate covert abuse not knowing it’s abuse!

Women married for 20,30 + years getting out when they do the inner work we do in my ETCE program.

If this sounds familiar and is what you’re experiencing, make sure to get registered for my upcoming Pain to Power Bootcamp. Link is in my bio.

Over to you. Can you relate to this type of relationship dynamic with a “nice guy”? Share in the comments below.

What are you waiting for? Stop waiting and hoping

What are you waiting for?

Stop waiting and hoping he will change and change your part in the dynamic.

It’s time to stop being the “nice girl” fearful of standing up for yourself and what you want and need, and step into your embodied power!

What isn’t talked about enough is that in all relationships we co-create the patterns.

Some who aren’t ready for this truth get this twisted and think I’m saying women cause and are responsible for the abuse they experience, and this is not at all what I’m saying.

It’s about taking personal ownership over OUR OWN TOXICITY and going within to see our role in keeping the dynamic going.

Many women play the HERO role and perpetuate the bad behaviour by: Helping, Enabling, Rescuing, Overfunctioning to compensate and mange their partner’s behaviour.

I’m not talking about physical abuse or assault, rape or childhood abuse. Again for that 5% who misconstrue what I’m saying this is a different situation.

If you’re experiencing physical violence you just need to get out to safety and heal outside of the situation.

Here’s my point: You’re not responsible for your partner’s behaviour, whether he grows or not, whether he changes or not.

You’re responsible for what you do now that you know the relationship is toxic.

Start by signing up for my upcoming Pain to Power Bootcamp. Let’s dig deeper together into transforming your life. (Link is in my bio).

*Discussion Thread* Share your answers in the comm

*Discussion Thread* Share your answers in the comments after reading.

Clinging, attachment, desperation, obsession, control, anxiety.

These are the dominant states of women in intimate relationships where there’s a co-created toxic dynamic present.

You have a partner who is distant, aloof, lazy, resistant, disrespectful and you’re trying to chase, help, enable, rescue, fix, force and coerce HIM to change so he will stop hurting you.

Read that again, until it sinks in 👆🏻 talk about insanity!

It doesn’t work.

Here’s something to reflect on today:

What expectations do you have of your partner?

Aside from basic human decency and respect (this is basic bottom line shit) what else are you “needy” for him to give you?

And are these needs actually his job to meet?

Share your answers below, let’s talk about it 👇🏻

🔴We’ll be talking more about these principles and topics in my upcoming Pain to Power Bootcamp! Get registered at the link in my bio.

❗️DISCLAIMER: trigger warning ⚠️ ❗️If

❗️DISCLAIMER: trigger warning ⚠️ ❗️If you think this post means I’m trying to blame women for the abuse they’re experiencing you’re missing the point of this entirely. I won’t tolerate this nonsense here because I know my intentions. I’m here to EMPOWER and CHALLENGE women to do the hard work to take responsibility over their lives.

There will always be others who behave in ways that cross our boundaries, this is why we need to know ourselves.

Our personal limits, values, boundaries, bottom lines, and what we really want.

This is not easy or passive work. Most people never go deep. Most people don’t embrace growth and consciousness as a way of life. A spiritual devotion.

Doing this inner work is uncomfortable, it takes time, it’s forever unfolding and ongoing.

👉🏻Stop pointing the finger at the other, and turn the focus inward on the relationship you have with yourself.

Right now on some level...

You don’t trust yourself.

You don’t believe you’re worthy of good.

You believe is acceptable for another to abuse and disrespect you

You think you’re too sensitive

You think you’re too much

You think saying no or cutting someone off who’s harming or taking advantage of
you is “mean”

You blame yourself for others behaviour

You sit in toxic shame and guilt

You play the HERO (Help, Enable, Rescue, Overfunction)

You don’t have solid boundaries
You don’t even know how to set them in conversations, your physical space, your emotional and psychological space.

This 👆🏻 is the work!

It’s time for awakened and conscious women to RISE above the bullshit.

If this is the level you’re ready for, head to my bio and sign up for the upcoming Pain to Power Bootcamp!

And comment below what bullshit you are no longer available for 👇🏻👇🏻

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