Abuse hidden in plain sight is the most dangerous form of abuse. Physical abuse leaves scars, and outsiders and authorities can validate that abuse has taken place.
An arrest can be made, and some justice served. Some consequences will be had in the form of being taken to jail.
This happened to me when my upstairs landlords heard my head being banged against a wall and me screaming. The police arrived at the scene to see I was physically harmed and shaken, the landlords heard the noise to verify what was going on, I also had cigarette burn marks in my arm from intentionally being burned. It was a horrible night, and one I can remember as clearly as if it just happened yesterday, although it happened in my teen years (over 25 years ago).
He was arrested and taken away. Natural consequences, he got what he deserved, and I still felt bad for him he went to jail.
I share this to highlight that physical scars other people can see, they can validate, and all stand together in agreeance about how wrong it is to hit or burn a woman.
The scars are there, noises were heard, police came to my aid.
With hidden emotional abuse, gaslighting, and all the mental games that come along with covert abuse, there are no marks, no visible scars – nobody else sees it.
This abuse can go on for decades, and cause so much damage – yet outsiders would never know what the abusive partner is actually doing behind closed doors.
Covert abusers are masters at quietly and calmly abusing you in subtle ways when nobody else is around.
Because the abuse is impossible to prove and pinpoint, and oftentimes nobody else witnesses it, targets even question if they’re experiencing abuse.
But the damage this is doing to women’s mental health, physical health, and that of their children if they have them in the home is massive, and often life-altering even once they leave.
In this episode of the podcast, I’m talking about the dangers of covert narcissistic abusers and things you need to be aware of if you’re living with a spouse who is calmly, quietly destroying your mental and physical health.
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