Being in a place of limbo in relationship, not knowing when to keep trying, and when to let go, can be one of the most painful and difficult situations we can experience in our lives.
You feel like your partner doesn’t ‘get’ you or understand you, and it feels like you can never connect on a deep level.
Living in this space of feeling unseen, misunderstood, unappreciated and in deep pain in your relationship is very difficult, and it can be a lonely place to be since most people aren’t talking about the REAL issues they experience in their relationship.
Going to friends and family for advice is usually unhelpful, and often will just keep things as they are. This also goes for couples counselling. If the practitioner doesn’t have expertise or personal experience with how to guide a couple skillfully, in a balanced way, shining light on both individuals dynamic in the relationship, it can feel like that is just a complete waste of time.
It’s common to feel alone and believe that everyone else has it better, and that the grass is greener somewhere else. But most times, this isn’t the case.
My husband and I have been together for 16 years this past April, and have gone through many rough times in our evolution as a couple.
During those times when I was questioning everything, there were a few defining factors that I held strong to, and questions I asked myself over, and over again that have kept me going. I cover these 3 questions you need to ask yourself if you are in this place of not knowing if you should stay or leave your relationship, and 1 sign you probably need to exit.