End the Cycle Evolve
A Specialized Self-Paced Program for Women Experiencing Narcissistic Abuse Who Want to Decide Whether to Stay or Leave Their Relationship
Taught By Former Therapist and Transformation Coach Leanne Oaten
Transform Your Pain Into Power
and Finally Get Clarity On Whether Your Relationship Can (or Should) Be Saved
Shift the patterns of crazymaking arguments, tension and conflict in your relationship starting today with a proven process that actually moves you toward rapid change
This is a 6 month mentoring and coaching program taught by a trained Holistic Therapist and Master Transformation Coach with over 8 years of experience
End the Cycle Evolve is a step by step program and method for women experiencing emotional abuse with a partner who exhibits narcissistic traits.
You’ve researched narcissism at length, and find your partner doesn’t fit all of the criteria and behaviors of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
And because your partner shows both positive and negative behaviors, and doesn’t fit the full criteria for NPD, you’re unsure if you’re actually experiencing abuse
You swing back and forth between being ready to leave and wondering if maybe there is hope for change to occur. Or, maybe you’re separated and hoping for a reunion once he’s worked on himself
Maintaining emotional balance when you’re ‘poked’ and ‘provoked’ feels nearly impossible, and you find yourself reacting in ways you aren’t proud of.
Nothing changes until YOU change
Other programs and experts tell you leaving and going “no contact” is the only option, or they offer guidance on healing after you’ve left.
End The Cycle Evolve is specifically created for women who are experiencing psychological abuse, who aren’t sure if they should give the relationship more time, or if leaving is the only way toward a whole and healed life
It’s also for women who don’t feel leaving is the right decision, who have kids or other entanglements.
Some women think the benefits of staying outweigh the cost of leaving and even fear the damage done to the children if they leave.
This is a no judgement zone!
discover if your relationship can (and should) be saved through
self-reclamation and Changing your part
in the Toxic ‘dance’
Going to friends, family, and uninformed therapists who minimize what you’re going through only leads to further traumatization.
You need a proven strategy and plan to follow to actually move toward real change – from the inside out
A holistic path that integrates your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions, that merges psychology, counselling, coaching, and solution focused mentorship.
ETCE is The Program for you If…
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Your partner never takes ownership and turns everything around on to you (which leaves you questioning if your concerns are valid) -
Your partner tells you you’re crazy, irrational, always complaining, or too sensitive all the time when you share with him how he’s hurting you -
You feel like you have to constantly repeat yourself over and over again until you’re exhausted, and when you think he finally gets it this time, nothing actually changes for more than a few days -
You feel like you’re always talking and talking, trying to articulate and explain perfectly how you feel, but your partner is never actually listening to you, so you go around and around in circles until you collapse from emotional exhaustion -
You continually feel invalidated, rejected, and like your partner just doesn’t care about you or how you feel, it feels like he has no concern or empathy for how you’re hurting (due to his behavior)
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You get the feeling that all the problems in the relationship are all because of you because every issue you raise somehow gets turned around onto you -
Your partner constantly minimizes and makes excuses for his bad behavior (which is always somehow your fault) -
You often find yourself swinging from feeling you want to leave because the behavior is so intolerable, to feeling hope when he’s “being nice” and promising to change, to wondering if you’ve tried hard enough to questioning if he really is a narcissist, back to self blame, back into the cycle -
You often feel confused after interactions with your partner, or by his strange and odd behaviors that leave you questioning yourself, and wondering if you really are going crazy
Here’s What You’ll Be Doing Inside End the Cycle Evolve:
MOnth 1: The Relationship Reset
Getting Out of The Confusion and Crazymaking Cycle
Get rid of any doubt that you’re experiencing abuse, and get out of the toxic ‘dance’ by understanding what you’re experiencing and changing your responses to abusive behaviours
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Learn the psychological abuse cycle in-depth, the emotional abuse patterns, red flags and behaviors to be aware of, and how to respond differently to shift the dynamic and stop wondering if you’re making things bigger than they are -
Take back your emotional power so you stop reacting in ways that perpetuate the cycle (that he can use against you later) and you can feel good about how you’re showing up no matter what he’s doing -
Learn how you’re playing into the dynamic, how to stop feeding the cycle, regain your inner peace and stop feeling controlled and powerless in your life -
Discover new ways to respond to emotional abuse tactics and comments without reacting emotionally and making things worse -
Unhook yourself from the emotional addiction you have to your partner which is driving you to keep ending up back in the toxic cycle so that you can regain your sense of inner peace and balance
month 2:
Own Your Boundaries and Stop Tolerating Abuse
Learn how to set boundaries, even when you’ve tried before and they haven’t worked
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Using boundary scripts, you’ll learn the types of boundaries you can set, how to set them, and how to enforce them -
Learn how self sacrificing, overhelping, over-functioning, over-giving and enabling behaviors keep the dynamic alive and actually prevent change from happening -
Feel more confident in your next conflict or difficult situation by knowing your boundaries in advance, and have a plan to keep yourself safe and sane
month 3:
Reclaim YOU and Your Personal Power
Learn the most important areas to shift within yourself to feel more powerful and in charge of your emotions and life, including breaking codependent patterns
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Come out of the abuse fog, awaken to the truth, and lift the veil of confusion so you can see everything from a new level of clarity -
Learn how self sacrificing, overhelping, over-functioning, over-giving and enabling behaviors keep the dynamic alive and actually prevent change from happening -
Learn how to stop blaming your partner and giving your power away to him, get out of feeling like a victim and take full ownership for your side of the street
month 4:
How to Know if Change is Possible + Plan Your Exit Strategy
In this module:
- Discover how to know if your partner can change
- Learn how to know if he’s serious about change
- Know what he’d need to do to truly change
- Empower yourself by developing your exit plan, just in case.
- Plan an in house separation if leaving right away isn’t an option
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Use my print out guides and checklists to discover if your partner can change, the reality of what it takes for him to make real change, key indicators and what you will hear and see from him that show his willingness to change, and a list of what he needs to do to show he’s willing to work on his issues. -
Define your next steps so you can stop feeling ambivalent and confused. You will also create your exit plan with checklists and audios walking you step by step through the process and learn how to do an intervention to set your new expectations with your partner -
Know your relationship needs, define your non-negotiable needs, and develop a plan of action to implement in your relationship, or start taking action toward your exit plan. You are the leader of your own process. -
Challenge and reframe all of your self sabotaging beliefs that are keeping you feeling stuck in the cycle of abuse and unable to leave
month 5 & 6:
Continuing Your Transformation Journey | Surviving the First Days of Separation
This phase is all about focusing on the work that you’ve done in the program, and most importantly, integrating it into your life so you can turn it into tangible solution-focused action and change. You will be setting your goals and plans and ensure you don’t fall back into the cycle. You’ll also have access to everything you need to plan a separation and have support on the other side should you decide to leave.
Perhaps right about now, you’re feeling terrified that by joining ETCE you’ll have to make a decision whether or not to leave your partner, and you’re not ready for that…
This program is not about forcing you to make a decision about whether to stay or go. It’s abut guiding you to making your own decisions, because in the end, nobody knows better about what to do about your life than you do.
You always have choice.
You might be feeling afraid that if you leap and join ETCE, this means that you have to blow up your life and make huge decisions about your family as a result of taking the program, this is also not the case.
In the process of going through the modules, you will begin to shift and see things much differently and will be able to make healthier decisions about your future from a healthier place.
This program is intended to help you get clarity on the phases of the emotional abuse cycle, and insight into whether your relationship can be changed, including creating your own plan for change that puts the focus back on you and your needs.
You may be with a partner who says he wants to change and promises to go to therapy to deal with his issues. From my experience working with so many women, this is not an effective strategy on its own.
To help you know exactly what he needs to be doing to actually change, (in module 4 after you’ve done your work) I outline exactly what he needs to be doing to actually change his behaviors at the root cause, should he be willing to join you in the change process.
You will define your next steps and walk away with a plan of action to implement to either stay, stay for now, or begin the exit phase of your relationship.
Here’s What You Get Instant Access To When You Invest in End The Cycle Evolve Mentoring Program Today:
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6 Core Modules of my End the Cycle Signature program delivered via videos, audios, workbooks, PDF guides, recorded classes. Self paced pre-recorded videos, audios and PDF print outs you study on your own time ($10,000 value) -
Weekly emails for the initial 30 day Relationship Reset to keep you on track and focused on the work (it’s like having a coach guiding you every step of the way)
How it Works
Once you register you’ll have instant access to the entire program education area. You can dive it right away and get started!
You will participate in the initial 30 Day Relationship Reset, and once you do this you will have the opportunity to deepen your growth, healing, and transformation over the additional months we have together in the program.
This is a self study program, which means it’s self-paced and you can take in the modules at your convenience.
Once you register you’ll receive an email from me with your next steps, instructions for how to get started, and strategies for how to set yourself up for success.
I want to serve many women for a fraction of the investment so I can live my mission and purpose to get women out of the harmful relationship dynamics they’re living in starting with their own healing and growth
You can get started in End The Cycle Evolve for your first installment of only $350 USD* and get INSTANT access to start today on your transformation journey.
You get 6 months of program access with your purchase.
Pay in 5 easy installments or in full
Choose the best option for you below:
5 INstallment plan
340 USD
per month for 5 months
Everything in the ETCE program paid in installments of $349 for 5 months.
one installment
1,497 USD
one payment
Everything in the ETCE program is paid upfront in one payment
Worried You Can’t Afford To Invest in End the Cycle Evolve?
Let’s Talk About Why You Can’t Afford NOT To Join
You might be thinking that a self paced program won’t offer you the help you need.
You can pay a therapist $150 per hour each week ($600 per month) and get mediocre results…
Or you can join a specialized, laser focused, and proven process to get you from uncertainty, anxiety, and confusion about your next steps, to clarity, focus, peace, and power (within weeks).
Nobody can guide you through what to do if you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse better than someone who understands (professionally and personally) the nuances, dynamics and patterns you’re experiencing.
ETCE is an investment in yourself and your healthier, happier future.
This program rapidly and permanently changes women’s lives in a way that years of therapy could not.
ETC is a specifically designed system, step-by-step method, and process that goes beyond what traditional 1:1 therapy can provide.
Let me clarify: I’m not knocking good quality therapy, there is definitely a place for it, however for the majority of my clients and students, therapy alone was not enough to move them toward meaningful change because the root cause of the relationship issues wasn’t being addressed.
You have a choice. Because life is about choice.
You can invest in getting specific support and guidance to move you forward (in much less time) toward having a real plan and your next steps already figured out
Or
You can keep doing what you’ve been doing and try to figure it out on your own with books, online research, YouTube, free groups, and podcasts… and be in this exact same place in 6 months, 12 months, or sadly even longer
Each choice we make holds a consequence. A cause and an effect. Right now you’ve got an important life-changing choice to make.
Keep going in the same direction, or plug into a solution that will move your forward much faster than doing it alone
It’s time to get real about how staying where you are is impacting you.
If you choose to do nothing, nothing changes, and not only does nothing change, it most often becomes worse
Chances are, you’re exhausted and feel at the end of your rope. You’ve been at this for quite some time, and you’re asking yourself how much longer this can go on the way it is. You know something’s got to give. You’ve been putting your life on hold as you’ve been consumed with getting by day to day, coping in the relationship dynamics.
A Message To Moms
If you’re like the many of the moms I have worked with, you’re also feeling torn between choosing yourself and letting down your children or others if you decide to leave, and finding a way to make it work to avoid the anguish of breaking up your family.
Your body is breaking down.
Your adrenals are depleted, you’re not sleeping, and new health symptoms arise as you become sicker and sicker.
You may even have adrenal fatigue, thyroid issues, hormone and period problems, and myriad unexplained aches, pains, and ‘syndromes’ due to the ongoing stress you’ve been under.
And because of the state of your physical and emotional health, you feel unequipped to make decisions about what to do about your situation.
You feel trapped.
It’s not your fault that you’ve reached this point. You haven’t had the right support, a structured plan, and specialized expert guidance.
The people you have gone to for help and support have led you astray. Don’t blame and shame yourself for feeling stuck.
And, while it isn’t your fault, if you keep going on this path and the relationship continues as it has been, and becomes worse over time, your body will continue to deteriorate, your mental health will continue to decline, and any children you have in the home will be further harmed in the dynamic of tension, and seeing you unhappy and unwell.
If you’re like most of my clients before they start working with me, you likely feel your family’s fate rests on your shoulders, and the pressure is intense. You play mental ping pong all day long about whether to stay or go.
You’re not present for your kids, and you feel like a terrible mother when you lose your cool with them yet again due to all the pressure and stress you’re under.
I get you’re overwhelmed with the uncertainty of your future, and you’re confused about where to go from here.
But the cold hard, no nonsense truth is that things will only continue to get worse if you don’t get the expert help you need to move the needle forward and develop a plan of action.
You don’t have time to tinker around in therapy talking about how crappy you feel for months on end, getting nowhere.
And therapy with your partner is doomed to fail as well.
The solution is you coming back to you.
Taking the focus off of your partner, and putting it on you.
To bring yourself back into the equation of your life.
For you to start taking a stand and setting rock solid limits and boundaries.
To take steps to protect yourself and your children if you have any in the home.
You want peace, relief, to feel safe and relaxed, happy, and excited about waking up in the morning, to feel the freedom to live your life how you want to live it – without walking on eggshells, without feeling controlled.
ETCE is the solution.
Need more convincing ETCE is for you?
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Frequently asked questions
There are no cancellations or refunds.
Yes, the installment plan option is offered for your convenience to make it accessible for those who aren’t able to pay for the program in full. This is not a membership, it is a coaching program. You are required to make all of your payments. Payments are debited every 30 days with the payment method you have on file. If you wish to continue on after the initial 3 month term month to month, you are welcome to stay on as long as you wish
ETCE is designed for women who are still in the relationship, or who are separated but are still feeling entangled with their ex, and are seriously considering reconciliation. Maybe your partner has made some changes, and you want to know if it’s going to stick this time. ETCE will give you clarity and a step by step process to know if your relationship can, or should be saved before you make the decision. Before you decide to engage back in the relationship, I urge you to take ETC first.
Many women leave a relationship like this and return, statistics say 7 times, before leaving for good. It is also common to get sucked back in with manipulation and promises each time you try to leave. Being in ETCE as you formulate clarity, inner strength, and a plan for your exit, as well as preparing yourself emotionally and logistically, will increase the odds that when you do leave, it will be for good. Based on my work with hundreds of women in this program, having support as you leave and after you exit is invaluable. Leaving and staying no contact is the hardest thing you will have to do.
You can ask anything related to the modules inside our free Facebook Community. Search “Pain to Power Community” in the Facebook search bar.
You get out of anything that you put into it. Allocate about 5 hours per week for watching/listening to the material, study and notes/journalling, or any homework you have to do. Also, keep in mind, clients report ETCE did more for them in 30 days than months spent in therapy getting nowhere. If you focus and stay in the work you will experience profound transformation.
I am no longer practicing as a counsellor, and the ETCE program is not counselling, it is a coaching and mentoring program. Therefore, this service is not covered by insurance.
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