What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is an attempt to confuse and minimize your feelings and reality, to deflect heat onto you, and evade the consequences and feeling the shame of misdeeds and mistakes. It is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation. It is the most often used tactic of those with narcissistic traits…
Growth vs Victim Mentality in a Narcissistic Relationship
You cannot transform your life with a victim mentality. So much of what is out there today on narcissistic abuse is heavily rooted in victim mentality. There are some who say it is ‘victim blaming’ or ‘victim shaming’ when I share my views on taking a growth…
Growth Mindset in a Narcissistic Relationship
You cannot transform your life with a victim mentality. So much of what is out there today on narcissistic abuse is heavily rooted in victim mentality. There are some who say it is ‘victim blaming’ or ‘victim shaming’ when I share my views on taking a growth and…
The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle in Action
A Crazymaking Covert Narcissistic Abuse Pattern You Have Come to Know In this Blogcast, I’m sharing a story (with permission) that perfectly illustrates what the covert narcissistic abuse cycle looks like and what you may be feeling when you’re in it. Here is the story: “I signed up for the…
6 Phases of Transformation in a Narcissistic Relationship
You are in a relationship with a narcissistic spouse, and you want to know if he can change. I feel you, and my heart goes out to you. You have history, a business, family, home, children, a life with this person, and your dream life is not turning…
To the Woman Who Has Lost Her Voice in Her Relationship
After a powerful group coaching call with my ETC members today, this blog post came to me after guiding the women on the call to stepping into their power and setting new boundaries to put a stop to the unbelievable treatment they are tolerating from an unconscious, abusive partner. …
The Cycle of Covert Narcissistic Emotional Abuse
The hallmark of an abusive relationship is the cyclic nature of the phases, and predictability of the tactics and patterns. Abuse takes many forms, for the sake of this blog post, I am referring to covert emotional/narcissistic abuse. For women in this type of relationship, the cycle isn’t…
How to Break Free From Victim Mentality in Toxic a Relationship
The Only Way to Truly Heal is To Shift Out Of Victim Mentality and Into Empowerment I’ve had to reflect on the words and message I want to convey in this post, because to be honest, all of my personal and professional experience as a therapist has led me…
Emotional Abuse Awareness Guide: How to Know if You’re In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
How to Know if You’re Experiencing Emotional Abuse in Your Relationship We are all capable of saying hurtful things and behaving in ways that can be harmful to another at times. Anyone can exhibit emotionally abusive behaviors under certain circumstances. But, what is considered to be emotional…
How to Know if Your Relationship Can Be Saved
If you are experiencing ongoing emotionally destructive patterns within your relationship, you will find it near impossible to focus, be productive and stay in your creative flow. My mission from day one of my work as a counsellor has been to empower women to stand up for their…